There are certain times of the year when people begin to assess their lifestyles, health and what makes them happy. Year end and the start of a new one are typically in that time frame. Although calling things “resolutions” is not comfortable to some – probably because of the weight of being “resolute” in their pursuit towards excellence – the message is still the same. It is time to truly think about who you are, how you live and what you want. More specifically, those decisions should all be centered around this one premise: I BRING VALUE BECAUSE I KNOW WHAT I AM WORTH.
Low self-esteem has been well rehearsed for many people. In religious circles, not thinking well of yourself has been called humility. In poor relationships, being the person to submit yourself to any type of treatment has been seen as thinking higher of your partner as a means to “serve” them. In both cases, those notions are incorrect. When you start from a position of not thinking you are worthy of solid care, love and support, you are setting yourself up to be seen as a “deficit,” grateful that someone views you as valuable. How can that possibly be healthy?
Starting now, learn the value of your presence. Begin to believe that when you enter into a relationship, you are going to receive the treatment from others that lets you know those people IDENTIFY YOUR WORTH. To be clear, they don’t DEFINE your worth. They merely cosign that they get to enjoy the privilege of your presence because they are grateful you have opted to share it with them. Assess yourself as someone that has value, worth being appreciated and regarded highly, first and foremost by you.
It really is true that if you leave it for others to decide what you are worth, they will get it wrong every time. But if you walk into the room knowing that your presence is precious, those in the room will know the same. People won’t mistake what you evoke from inside of you, especially your value. Value your presence as a privilege that you bestow on others that will appreciate the delight that you are. To do any less leaves you open to believing what other people may think of you. And they may not be correct.