We are all at a place in life where our “normal” has been interrupted by the unknown. And to make matters more difficult, the “new normal” we are yet to see may look more unfamiliar and frightening than ever. What if you are facing this crisis alone? The isolation of not having someone can be very tough emotionally. On the flipside, many people have a house full of people, virtual dance parties and concerts galore. Guess what? They are miserable because the people sharing their lives are not people they want in their lives. No matter which side of the coin you are on, if it’s real to you, it’s real.
We are built for connection in life. To have someone share your trials and triumphs makes life more bearable and fulfilling. Whether that is a love relationship or close friendships, we need people in our lives.
This event, as major as it is, has illuminated what is happening in our relationships. If you are single, this can make for much more emotional upset because it highlights your fears that you may never have someone to share the best and worst of times with in the future. Those types of fears are crippling and can lead to depression. If you are with a partner and realize that the relationship you have is unhealthy, depression can also be your portion. Your fear may be that you will need to “settle” for what you have so you don’t have to face the future alone. In either case, those fears are real and lead to reflection on the quality of your life.
If there was ever a time to assess the life that you want and the one you no will no longer tolerate, it is now. Seeing how life can change dramatically from one week to the next should be an eye opener on how valuable the time that we have is. Take full advantage of the time that is still yours to claim.
It is wise to reflect on what your needs are, alone or coupled. When our “new normal” shows up, make certain that you are doing the work required to have the life and love you want. This “intermission” can serve as the line in the sand to propel you towards the responsibility of getting to the life you truly deserve.