Since the power to achieve something is first by defining it, let’s define what more is. As an adjective, it means in greater quantity, amount, measure, degree, or number. In noun form, more is something of greater importance. For the purposes of this blog, the noun is the assignment.
We have seen another year zoom by, without so much as a whisper of recognition of our existence! And if we’re honest, the challenges we faced had many of us saying, “I’ll be so glad for next year because this one was terrible!” But who are we kidding? This isn’t the first time we have uttered those words. But hopefully, it will be the last.
We will not see more by making fancy resolutions for 1/1, and maybe not even with vision boards with a group of friends. Lovely ideas, but not potent enough for the DOING to change anything in your life. Change comes by evaluating whether what you’re striving for has real meaning, is worth sacrificing for…in short, if there is greater importance for what you see for your future.
Do you want to lose weight and have a stronger body? Is the desire for more income birthed out of purposeful possession and distribution? Thinking of opening your heart to another person and sharing true intimacy on your list? All these things are worthwhile investments if they are attached to something of greater importance.
Having a fit body is great when you decide that being able to be strong helps you play with your grandchildren or have the ability to run down three flights of stairs to escape the danger of fire. Who doesn’t appreciate that money can help to not live in fear of food insecurity or homelessness? Finally, sharing the value of yourself with someone special is magical for both people, if done openly and honestly. But take any of these great things and misuse them, greater importance is lost. Do you want to be in a picture-perfect frame to body shame others? Is money to be used to make other people feel small and less valuable than you? Will a new relationship keep you in your old bag of tricks of being unfaithful and narcissistic? How are any of these great things of greater importance for you or anyone else?
The point of more is to be generous with the resource of you and being honorable towards others. When more is linked to selfishness and the pain of others, it isn’t more: it’s a disguise for abuse. Shoot for the abundance of more but take others with you so you can spend a year understanding that more has room to give as well as receive. Now that has greater importance all over it.
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